You are elastic, not stagnant.
“A caterpillar who seeks to know himself would never become a butterfly.”
— André Gide
You may not be a morning person now. But you might be when you have kids.
You may not think of yourself as a meditator, but after listening to Tara Brach, you may become hooked.
You may have loved drinking chocolate milk and eating fruity pebbles as a kid. But do you still consume them as an adult?
You may order an espresso each morning until someone introduces to you the Americano or flat white.
And so forth…
You’re made to change, in small and significant ways. To think who you are today is final is nonsense, an illusion that falsely imagines the end of your own history.
“We all think that who we are now is the finished product: we will be the same in five, 10, 20 years. But, as these psychologists found, this is completely delusional – our preferences and values will be very different already in the not-so-distant future.”
Perhaps instead we should ‘practice becoming,’ as Kurt Vonnegut so wisely encouraged.