If you know what you're looking for, you're most likely to find it. But persistence can become the problem. In falling short of your endeavor, you cheat or start fabricating stories to compensate for your underperformance.
It's a basic practice to admit your mistakes. People who invest in their own lies gradually wither away. If denied, truth becomes unbearable.
Deflecting attention is a short-term gain. On the other hand, acceptance propels the need to contribute.