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Don’t confuse social media with your diary

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Authenticity is the bread and butter of developing an attractive online persona. People relate to users that share bits of their personal lives.

But a lot of people confuse social media with their diary. The viewer cringes at over-admissions of vulnerability. Too much info!

What followers want are real stories, not overly planned content, digital manipulation, sympathy-provoking posts, and canned responses.

“Use your blog to connect. Use it as you. Don’t “network” or “promote.” Just talk.”

Neil Gaiman

The world already has enough actors and curated lives that entertain and inspire. It's a relief to see people that act off-screen like they do offline.

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By Wells Baum

Wells Baum is a daily blogger who writes about Life & Arts. He's also the author of four books.

10 replies on “Don’t confuse social media with your diary”

For sure — the curated identity rarely matches up with the one in real life. For me, sharing is just a way of seeing. I try to make sure there’s something at least interesting for the viewer to read/look at otherwise I don’t see the point unless it’s strictly for audience pleasure a la a personal FB post. Appreciate the insight Sukanya!

Social media is all about sharing your pseudo self. Sometimes people mistake it for their real self, and start writing about their minute vulnerabilities and insecurities. Their lives become like an open book and their venting out becomes dangerous as it becomes a bait to bullies and other cyber criminals.

I can’t be friends with people who overshare. If I wanted to know, I’d call. However, there is something to be said for using one’s vulnerabilities and painful moments to shape a thoughtful post or bring awareness to a subject.

I see that too. I’d rather write something I feel is a meaningful message than write something to garner likes (tho I”d be lying if I said it didn’t feel good to have people like my work).

For sure, when I get stuck on the latter I try to remember what Kurt Vonnegut said: “write to please just one person.” Maria Popova of Brainpickings thought that what he was really saying was to write for yourself; don’t try to please anyone but yourself. Great podcast if you have the time: https://wellsbaum.blog/2015/07/26/podcast-maria-popova-hosts-the-tim-ferriss-show/

That’s a great philosophy and one I try to live by. Try being the operative word. Thanks for the link to the podcast. I have a little extra time in the summer (teacher so no school until August) , so I will check it out.

There is definitely a fine line between over-sharing and being true to who you are. If your blog has a huge following of people who connect with you on a “deeper” level, then I think it is okay to share more personal anecdotes (especially if it directly relates to your blog, i.e. you often mention your husband but now you and him are getting divorced). You are just letting your readers know that the posts about “him” will be different. This post is making me think deeply about how I feel, nicely done!

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