Retaliation is sometimes disguised as rebellion.
Doing to opposite of what your told can be fulfilling. But disagreeing on purpose is really just rebelling for the wrong reasons. You know in the back of your head that your parents are looking out for your best interests.
Retaliation dwindles with age. Part of this is because your parents loosen up. They did their best on you. Your life is basically up to you after college. The other part of this is the requirements of survival.
Responsibility makes one conform to adulthood. Rebellion and angst cost more money than doing the right thing.
Identity is a key to happiness. But so is economics. As long as you’re honest in what you accept and deny you’ll never lose that edge.