We can do whatever we want. The problem is that we often wait to be told what to do. The inertia of indecision makes us better doers than deciders.
It is not the thinker nor the thought that wants control. It is the novelty that comes from trial and error, the individual pursuit of constant motion to ride out the sea of change.
Do first, learn later. As Aldous Huxley wrote in Island:
It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly.Aldous Huxley