You are not our thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts. But you are your actions. How you determine what's reasonable and worth doing versus what's irrational and worth ignoring demonstrates the emotional strength of your thinking mind.
As Eric Barker writes on his blog:
You’re not your brain; you’re the CEO of your brain. You can’t control everything that goes on in “Mind, Inc.” But you can decide which projects get funded with your attention and action. So when a worry is nagging at you, step back and ask: “Is this useful?”
Worrying is the attempt to control future events that rarely–wait, never happen! Anxiety is a thinking problem for which there are thinking solutions.
Socratic questioning will help you reframe negativity, as will the practice of acceptance. Permitting a bad thought, even exaggerating it, diminishes its effect: you get bored of it. Playing with dialectical forces ultimately reveals the truth.
You can strengthen your emotion muscle through some of the methods outlined below:
— Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) March 13, 2017