First, you reject it and then you get ridiculed. Your status as an outcast becomes a stigma for all future requests at conformity. Until you stop getting asked to join altogether.
Joining the herd sounds like a wiser idea, a temporary investment to get in the pack while maintaining your individuality, at least in your head.
It takes time to influence other people. Your style is easy to express but hard to duplicate.
The trick to blending in is to stand out even more. If you want that investment you’ll need to play by the rules to get it.
Conformity is a myth. Suck it up at first and then lead by example. The goal isn’t necessary to develop a following; the goal is to be yourself and be appreciated for being different while avoiding full exclusion.
The misfits still need to sell themselves.