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On making life’s biggest decisions


When it comes to decision-making, first you decide, then you deduce. Of course, life’s biggest decisions such as marriage or a career change are some of the hardest decisions to make because the fear is that they won’t work out. The bigger the risk, the greater the hesitation.

‘This might not work.’

People like to play it safe. It’s easier to adopt the status quo than playing the long game and facing the fear of uncertainty. Chance is risky. Change is scary.

We’re so scared of making a change that we outsource our decisions to other people. In other words, we seek their permission. Not surprisingly, our family members and peers recommend circling the race track rather than pursuing the labyrinth of self-discovery. Warns financial advisor and essayist/sketcher Carl Richards for the New York Times:

“People expect you to stay how you are, to maintain the status quo, to stay the course. And if you get bogged down looking for that affirmation to make a change, you may never make it.”

All believing is betting

People that do risk change — on their volition or because of a coin toss — usually end up thinking the best of it. When we change, we grow.

“Based on the results of tossing over 20,000 virtual coins, the study found that people were happier after making a major change, whether they did it because the coin forced their hand or because they decided on their own.”

The only person we need permission from is ourselves. Indecision is a decision, albeit, the wrong one. Still unsure? Here’s your permission slip.

“Whatever it is, you now have permission to do it.”

Read Hesitant to Make That Big Life Change, Permission Granted

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How to make up your mind and decide

spike lee do the right thing sal's place

Decisions are multi-faceted. They can be manifested as desires, little bets about how you want things to go. After all, all believing is betting.

However, you can also decide against your best wishes. No one wants to put a sick dog to sleep. Difficult decisions paralyze people’s judgment. “Sometimes it’s not what I want to do but what I ought to do,” admits the elder woman in the video from Andrew Norton.

Decisions can be murky too. In Spike Lee’s Do the Right Thing, is the ‘right thing’ to cause a ruckus or sit back and preach non-violence? Mookie the protagonist postpones his own anxiety, feeling action is necessary despite breaking the law. He deals with the consequences.

Sometimes the right answer comes about through experience–a mere function of your mistakes. That is, first you decide and then you deduce, analyzing the call after the fact. Decision-making is a skill, growing stronger with more deliberate practice.

“There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision, and for whom the lighting of every cigar, the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and going to bed every day, and the beginning of every bit of work, are subjects of express volitional deliberation.

William James

In the words of Seth Godin: “You don’t need more time, you just need to decide.” You cannot afford to hesitate in a sea of doubt. Dance with fear or risk of living with regret. Indecision is still a decision or rather suspend doubt, DECIDE, and bear the responsibility.


Whether Weather

Weather is fickle. Knowing what it is or going to be before you go outside both saves and ruins the day.

Weather forecasts save your day when it storms because you’ll have packed an umbrella or extra rain jacket. However, weather predictions disappoint you when the day turns out dry; you just lugged around extra protection all day for nothing.

Expectation initiates preparation. The whole point of knowing the future is to prevent it. But even if you prepare nothing you’ll still survive. There’s always a way to circumvent bad weather; you can take transportation or merely stay inside, walk between buildings. You’re just as fortunate not knowing what’s to come and living as is.

You can deal with forecasts now and prepare, wait and see what happens, or ignore the forecast completely and just adapt. It all works out in the end.


Instinct Can Beat Analytical Thinking

Gut feelings are tools for an uncertain world. They’re not caprice. They are not a sixth sense or God’s voice. They are based on lots of experience, an unconscious form of intelligence.

Experience builds more intelligence and better judgement which in turns builds better instincts.


Time Stamp

Everything we do gets recorded with a time stamp: every transaction, FB post, tweet, virtually every step we take from the time we leave for work to the time we walk in the door at home.

There’s hard evidence of our whereabouts and actions recorded somewhere every day whether it ends up being a published story or not. The time stamp is the creation of our own Big Brother.

We bask in the production of our own digital evidence. We want to know how many Fitbit steps we average per day and the paths we take to get there.

We want to track everything so that algorithmic machines can predetermine our future. We rather enjoy certainty than face the stresses of indecision. Predictive behavior may relieve stress in the short-term but hurt intuition in the future.

Life is becoming a time stamp devoid of spontaneity. If we yield to big data, our next move may be as banal and data-driven as the next, blindfolding sudden invention. We need try things on a whim so we can learn from failure and build up the sticktuitiveness to endure.