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Life & Philosophy

Running to safety

Acceptance precedes change, the self-help books proclaim. One can’t advance unless they agree with their current state.

Similarly, uncertainty boils with anticipation. The only way to calm the nerves is to take action that scratches the itch. Doing instead of wondering is a litmus test for hope.

Both acceptance and initiative can make us feel more alive. The trick is to learn when to accelerate and when to dip.

Trapped inside of fear, unable to inhabit our own experience — the last thing we should do is run away and let pass opportunity by.

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Productivity & Work

Ready, rock steady

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The more you work the more you make, at least it appears that way. But Søren Kierkegaard thought wiser:

“Of all ridiculous things the most ridiculous seems to me, to be busy — to be a man who is brisk about his food and his work.”

Søren Kierkegaard

Henry Miller also disdained to overwork:

“I’ve found that it isn’t necessary to work that much. It’s bad, in fact. You drain the reservoir.”

Henry Miller

More work may beget more money but also creates more stress, which may negatively impact productivity. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break or a vacation and letting the mind run on its own.

Even during those dull moments your mind is working, jettisoning the bad ideas and retaining the good ones much like a washing machine. This process intensifies during sleep.

Pace your work. Focus and relax once in a while and allow the brain to sort out the connections. Slow and steady wins the race.

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Life & Philosophy Psychology

The backlash of presence

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If you’re like me, you have a love and hate relationship with the mindfulness practice. It only seems to work when you’re actually doing it, at home in your chair far away from the chaos of life. The rest of your time you’re trying to install this moment-by-moment awareness into your real life to no avail. It’s both frustrating and hilarious.

The author of America the Anxious Ruth Whippman sums up the insidiousness of mindfulness in a recent op-ed in the New York Times:

“Mindfulness is supposed to be a defense against the pressures of modern life, but it’s starting to feel suspiciously like it’s actually adding to them. It’s a special circle of self-improvement hell, striving not just for a Pinterest-worthy home, but a Pinterest-worthy mind.”

There are some benefits of meditation–it calls attention to our lack of focus. We’re all so easily distractable in the smartphone age. Instead of acting smug about inner-noticing and our failure of presence, perhaps the quickest path to emotional calm is to stop trying so hard to be here now in the first place.

“This is a kind of neo-liberalism of the emotions, in which happiness is seen not as a response to our circumstances but as a result of our own individual mental effort, a reward for the deserving. The problem is not your sky-high rent or meager paycheck, your cheating spouse or unfair boss or teetering pile of dirty dishes. The problem is you.”

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Life & Philosophy Productivity & Work

Why silence is golden

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Silence the mind

“Silence is a great canvass for your thoughts,” entrepreneur and musician/author Derek Sivers proclaimed. He’s right. But to understand why, we need to go deeper.

Serenity now 

We live in a world of external distractions, more annoying than the incessant ringing of our phones. According to a 2013 study, children who grow up near airports or noisy urban areas can become immune to stress-inducing sounds, impairing their ability to detect speech in conversation. Says Cornell university researcher Gary W. Evans, spearheading the study:

“even at levels that do not produce any hearing damage – causes stress and is harmful to humans”

In another study, silence has shown to more effective at releasing tension than relaxing to soothing music. In fact, silence does more than release stress and tension-it literally regrows neurons. No wonder mindfulness meditation is all the rage!

Silence is golden

Silence can rewire your brain and liberate our unconscious, stoking the imagination. We can paint the silence with our thoughts and tap into the creative parts of our brain.

“As Herman Melville once wrote, “All profound things and emotions of things are preceded and attended by silence.”

Throw in some earplugs and quiet the mind so the soul can speak. Shhhhhh.

Science Says Silence Is Much More Important To Our Brains Than We Think

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Social Media Tech

Derek Sivers on disconnecting

“If you asked people in 1989 what they needed to make their life better, it was unlikely that they would have said a decentralized network of information nodes that are linked using hypertext.”

Here we are — addicted to this thing called the Internet. According to CNN, info fatigue is killing us. Why do we need to know everything?

Internet connectedness also thwarts our creativity. As Derek Sivers writes in his latest blog post:

“Silence is a great canvas for your thoughts.”

Sivers made over 50 songs one summer and started CD Baby another — all because he decided to unplug and instead play with boredom.

Your biggest contributions in life come offline when you devote hours of extended focus to achieve flow. If you can delay the gratification of social media, you can make more stuff.

Consider making a “to don’t” list to discipline your focus. Note the things you should avoid like checking your email and messages as soon as you get up. Make a filter on Twitter that excludes all things “Trump” so you do not get sidetracked into blistering anxiety.

The greatest challenge in disconnecting is that our devices are also are creative palettes. People use their phones to write, take and edit photos, and make music. The propensity for distraction is a thumb swipe away.

The Internet is both a gift and curse. Its pervasiveness inhibits focus but distributes our creative output at the same time. Use it wisely.

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Productivity & Work

Creatures of habit

Some of this may sound familiar:

  • Waking up at 6:30 every morning
  • Wearing the attire laid out the night before
  • Repeating the same motivational mantras in front of the bathroom mirror every morning

The benefits of establishing diurnal habits is the pre-planned automation that puts the body in motion before your mind. As a result, you don’t have to think, which saves brain space for other stuff like work priorities.

The drawbacks for habits, even the stuff you don’t want to think about, is that these things lose meaning over time. You’re doing them without questioning their utility in the first place.

Daily routines are meant to be switched up. You may wake up 10 minutes later or earlier. You may decide what to wear in the morning. You may want to choose a new set of mantras to motivate you, or none at all so you can just live.

We are rhythmic creatures

Change is good. Change often to keep the mind fresh from repetition. Mix it up every once in a while in order to stay awake.