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Are you an egg person or an onion person?

A gif of eggs cracked in pain

Introverts are egg people. They’re not hiding anything (per say), they are mostly reserved. And once they start to get comfortable, they are as open and talkative as anybody else. “Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured,” writes Susan Cain in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

Extroverts, on the other hand, are onion people. They contain so many layers of bombast that it’s hard to know when they are being authentic, showy, or just spewing flotsam. Yet, extroverts are most likely to be leaders because they talk loud and carry a big stick.

George Mason economics professor and Oxford humanities associates Robin Hanson sums up the egg and onion divergence:

I’ve sometimes been tempted to classify people as egg people and onion people. Onion people have layer after layer after layer. You peel it back, and there’s still more layers. You don’t really know what’s underneath. Whereas egg people, there’s a shell, and you get through it, and you see what’s on the inside.

Are ambiverts egg or onion people?

Ambiverts are more like salad people, easy to digest and mix in with all types of other folks and scenarios. They’re adaptable like a chameleon depending on whatever social situation they’re in.

We all contain multitudes. But it is the mouth that separates us apart, with different levels of signaling.

Words are the original memes, for which some things are still best unshared and unsaid. Sometimes silence does all the messy talking, reveals all that needs to be conveyed. As Susan Cain puts it: “We have two ears and one mouth and we should use them proportionally.”

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Toggling

This isn’t just a computer term. It’s also a way you can interact daily with your surroundings.

It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert of extrovert; you’ve got to be able to speak when necessary and shut your mouth when it’s unnecessary. Great leaders show both patience and eloquence depending on the moment’s needs. Obama toggles well although he’s more of an introvert.

People generally prefer someone that talks a lot over someone that’s silent. Noise assumes control whereas the resistance to open up assumes passivity.

You can avoid being bucketed altogether if you just play up when one is needed most. So, you can be the blabberer, and be the mute.

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Why Introverts Share More

The paradox of social reality in a social media state.

“The network is rapidly displacing the hierarchy and with it the virtual displaces the physical. We’ve got a ways to go, but think about how our relationship works (very little physical, a lot virtual, very close and intimate, even though we are rarely together physically). I experience this even more profoundly as an introvert as I’d love to spend even more of my time physically alone but emotionally and intellectually connected.”

As spotted in the comment section on Fred Wilson’s “Darwinian Evolution” post.

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The Introvert

On the misunderstood Introvert:

My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: “I’m okay, you’re okay—in small doses.”

Don’t underestimate the quiet thinker for he/she is often bolder.

Two introverts, Ronald Reagan and Rosa Parks, spoke softly and carried a big stick. Big enough to change the world.