Any time you’re looking for something you’re more likely to find it but you’re also more likely to be disappointed. Objectives come in all shapes and sizes:
- Looking for a girlfriend/boyfriend?
- Looking to buy a new car?
- Looking to Instagram a photo?
Keeping these goals top of mind invites a lot of opportunity and failure. That first potential significant other ignores you, that new car is overpriced, and that photo ends up blurry. Fuck.
It’s no wonder then that when we stop trying so hard, things tend to happen naturally. All of a sudden you get engaged, find a decent car, and snap an awesome photo.
Success is more likely to come when the object of desire is in the back of your head instead of top of mind. And sometimes great things happen when you don’t think about them at all.
Still, luck favors attention. No one ever gets anything or anywhere by doing nothing. Just be aware of the possibility and everything else will take care of itself.