Why goals are complicated…

Goals are complicated because they intend to guide us to produce a specific action, but instead lead us down a road of stress, worry, and feelings of inadequacy.  We’re never good enough.

Goals are complicated because they drive us forward into achieving milestones but make us so focused on the daily gain that we lose appreciation of the other important things in our life, such as spending extra time with that someone we love.  

Goals are complicated because they enforce awesome focus but also make our mind one-sided.  When we wear blinders, we miss other significant observations and events.  

Goals are complicated because they become addictive.  After achieving one, we merely want more.  We’re never satisfied.  

Goals are complicated because they motivate us through despair.  But goals deflate us when we can’t cross something off the bucket list. 

On the other hand, living life without goals makes us unhappy.  We don’t know what we want and the indecisiveness kills us.  

Balancing goals and happiness is difficult.  Leo Barbauta even argues that the “best goal is no goal” at all.     

In reality…

Goals are decisions.  We should use them to get started.  But we must keep our goals loose and open to interpretation.  We must ask ourselves why we put the goal on paper in the first place.  

The right goal is kept loose enough so that it can evolve with our experience.  Maybe we didn’t write that book or run that marathon.  Don’t stress out about it.  At least now we’re getting back into the habit of writing and exercising again because we actually enjoy it. 

If we set goals, we must also insure that we enjoy the process, the actions we take to achieve our goals.  

The game of goal setting should be fun, not complicated.  

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By Wells Baum

Wells Baum is a daily blogger who writes about Life & Arts. He's also the author of and four books.