So what?

Instead of asking the typical fear-setting question ‘what’s the worst that can happen?’ instead persistently ask yourself ‘so what?’ So what if you didn’t get into the college you wanted? So what if you’ll never be famous? So what if you’ll never find a significant other? So what? Repetition dulls negative thoughts. Boredom hinders the loop […]

Outsmart your worries

You are not our thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts. But you are your actions. How you determine what’s reasonable and worth doing versus what’s irrational and worth ignoring demonstrates the emotional strength of your thinking mind. As Eric Barker writes on his blog: You’re not your brain; you’re the CEO of your brain. You can’t […]

Habituate the fear 

Anxiety is both a contagious and fearful gift. However, more emphasis gets placed on its negative influence rather than its impetus for greatness By overcompensating for our fears, rehearsing actions that vitiate it, we preempt the tremors with the feeling of habit. Making art is an anxiety reducer, as is doing the dishes, running, or […]