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How to mirror the beat of our heart

It seems that in preparing to live up to our best selves, we often fail to follow the very advice we give others.

Dizziness caused by the freedom of indecision goes at odds against reality. So we jump at the quickest cognitive register — whichever requires the least effort.

Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.

The ALchemist

We control our expectations which shape how we experience our actions and their outcomes.

At the wheel, we lay our own foundation and build a world from those bricks. The difference lies in the rigidity of our inner-narrative.

Those who believe in their own potential, jump into hurdles with enthusiasm, go further, even if they exaggerate their faculties.

Since the lights are always on and the imagination on tap — even when we fall asleep — it behooves us to preprogram the subconscious with positive mental vitamins.

In the age of diminishing expectations, the story we tell ourselves is everything. We drive our own voice, intimately, and directly.

Surrounded by mirrors, the real “self” is the aggregation of different angles that aim to ride out the beat of our hearts.

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Life & Philosophy

The hunt for lost desires

We humans hunt for desires, only to realize that chasing the same materials leaves us feeling empty.

Consuming in a desultory fashion is not what the doctor ordered.

People are meant to be unique machines, versatile with no fixed shape.

Curiosity may have killed the cat, but without venturing into the unknown we fail to evolve.

The victim stands still, faced by the conformist pressure of fitting in.

The same rebelliousness that encourages people to opt out is the same one that sparks them to live with intention.

At the peak of our abilities, we mature into death.

Ironically, the sheep survive. But to what end? The conundrum persists.

“The price of being a sheep is boredom. The price of being a wolf is loneliness. Choose one or the other with great care.”

— Hugh MacleodIgnore Everybody: and 39 Other Keys to Creativity

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Life & Philosophy Productivity & Work

Guilted into trying

Things are never perfect the first time around, a bit better the second, and mind a few tweaks, they seem to be just about right in the third and fourth efforts.

The fear of failure is good quality control. It ensures that in the process of disrupting ourselves, we appreciate the challenge of ascendancy.

Riding the wave of uncertainty

The attempt to blaze our own trail is never easy. Being misunderstood for long periods of time dampens the mood. But there will always be more guilt in not trying.

Dreams require a ceaseless imperative of movement, the confidence to tread into unknown territory regardless of faith and doubt.

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Life & Philosophy Productivity & Work

More than just a pipe dream

Dreams come and go but leave the loftiest impressions.

How is it that something can leave such a big imprint but rarely create a reality of the same intensity?

Accruing likes are rarely a good barometer of progress. The only validation of advancement is the grade you give yourself behind closed doors.

Imagination is one thing; dreams are another. The latter needs some hustle muscle. Life requires that you dream with the brain awake.

Visualization starts the heart and manifests the dream. Nothing is more lucid than real action itself.

Beyond ridiculous — that’s the point. Have the courage to deserve it. More than apparition is a hail mary come true.

Whatever musters both desire and fear, do that!

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Life & Philosophy Productivity & Work

Working backward

We all know what we want. Our main challenge is in getting there. But if we take our end-destination and outline the steps to achieve it working backward, it suddenly becomes less intimidating.

We can’t afford to skip any steps. Mastering each tread fortifies the fundamentals which help push us through temporary and unforeseen hurdles.

Greatness is scarce because so few people want to struggle.

They think they can perfect the work in theory over practice. Success is ultimately a summary of our failures.

We should feel compelled to identify what you want and map out the road it takes to get there. We may never arrive at the final destination but instead, be redirected to something even better than we could’ve imagined.

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Growing one block of reality at a time

We take one step forward and two steps back. Effort never guarantees success but it always ensures learning.

All great things happen because of discomfort. If we can persist through the pain and develop patience, there’s usually a rainbow waiting for us at the other end.

But whatever we’re chasing needs to give us purpose. Purpose drives passion which in turn makes it easier to persist through all the CRAP: criticism, rejection assholes, and pressure.

Whenever any that goal gets less sticky, perhaps it’s time to pivot or take more risks.

Toggling between the predictable and unpredictable makes us feel more alive.

Pour one out for the emotional journey of creating anything great.

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Arts Life & Philosophy Poetry Psychology

Have an exaggerated sense of curiosity

We’re all fake artists, winging it to chase our dreams while simultaneously masking our vulnerabilities.

It isn’t a thorny question of attribution. We all steal ideas from each other and recast them as our own.

But having an exaggerated sense of curiosity pays off. The cash value of policing thoughts means that we can better sew the past, present, and the future altogether.

We are one, in mind and spirit. The only drawback is fabricating the best self that meets the lofty ambitions of others.

Nothing is fake if the desire is real. All we can do is float into the canvass of our dreams.

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Life & Philosophy Productivity & Work

On making life’s biggest decisions

When it comes to decision-making, first you decide, then you deduce. Of course, life’s biggest decisions such as marriage or a career change are some of the hardest decisions to make because the fear is that they won’t work out. The bigger the risk, the greater the hesitation.

‘This might not work.’

People like to play it safe. It’s easier to adopt the status quo than playing the long game and facing the fear of uncertainty. Chance is risky. Change is scary.

We’re so scared of making a change that we outsource our decisions to other people. In other words, we seek their permission. Not surprisingly, our family members and peers recommend circling the race track rather than pursuing the labyrinth of self-discovery. Warns financial advisor and essayist/sketcher Carl Richards for the New York Times:

“People expect you to stay how you are, to maintain the status quo, to stay the course. And if you get bogged down looking for that affirmation to make a change, you may never make it.”

All believing is betting

People that do risk change — on their volition or because of a coin toss — usually end up thinking the best of it. When we change, we grow.

“Based on the results of tossing over 20,000 virtual coins, the study found that people were happier after making a major change, whether they did it because the coin forced their hand or because they decided on their own.”

The only person we need permission from is ourselves. Indecision is a decision, albeit, the wrong one. Still unsure? Here’s your permission slip.

“Whatever it is, you now have permission to do it.”

Read Hesitant to Make That Big Life Change, Permission Granted

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Books Creativity Writing

‘We are told stories as children to help us bridge the abyss between waking and sleeping’

We are told stories as children to help us bridge the abyss between waking and sleeping. We tell stories to our own children for the same purpose. When I find myself in danger — caught on a stuck ski-lift in a blizzard — I immediately start telling myself stories. I tell myself stories when I am in pain and I expect as I lay dying I will be telling myself a story in a struggle to make some link between the quick and the defunct.

We are told stories as children to help us bridge the abyss between waking and sleeping. We tell stories to our own children for the same purpose. When I find myself in danger — caught on a stuck ski-lift in a blizzard — I immediately start telling myself stories. I tell myself stories when I am in pain and I expect as I lay dying I will be telling myself a story in a struggle to make some link between the quick and the defunct.

Olivia Lang, The Trip to Echo Spring: On Writers and Drinking (Amazon)
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Life & Philosophy Social Media Tech

From bytes to bits of reality

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We demand privacy yet admit ourselves to the culture of exposure. But rather than celebrating our uniqueness, we publish the same things everybody else does: selfies, food porn, and bullet journal snapshots.

The one benefit to seeing other people’s stories is the reinforcement of FOMO (fear of missing out). The unlived life taunts one into action. In such a way, FOMO can represent a positive form of encouragement. It gets off our screens and into the real world.

Life’s richest data emerges from lived experiences rather than the pixels on a screen. Exposure carves us into beings rather than lemmings of technology’s manipulative desires.

Inspired by adventure, we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and explore more of the parts unknown.