Avoid the suck

The carrot dangles, tempting a response. But the incentive is not always worthy. What we need more is a beautiful constraint, to cease ourselves from the pursuit of vices. To follow unconsciously is another person’s business opportunity. Once we investigate the soul, the rest follows, and we can avoid the trap. art via giphy Advertisements

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One small change

Sometimes it is one small change that makes all the difference. And seeking it makes our aspirations feel alive. The alternative is adopting other people’s anxiety, locked into a cohesive occupied mind like a flock of sheep. When you go for it, you should expect to fail but learn a lot too. Escaping the treadmill […]

The courage to believe

If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Faith drives action. Faith drives results. Without faith, nothing works. Indifference and pessimism are attractive because they’re the easiest to obtain, the most accessible to deploy and practice. “Ask yourself this: would your childhood self be proud of you, or embarrassed?” — Julien Smith, The Flinch Pursuing […]

The worst kind of regret is not living up to your ‘ideal self’

Lifehacker published an interesting piece on How to avoid a life of regret: According to psychologist Tom Gilovich, lead author on “The Ideal Road Not Taken,” published in the journal Emotion, our regrets that bother us the most involve failing to live up to our “ideal selves.” Basically, we’re not as bothered by the mistakes we’ve made or […]

How to avoid the comparison bubble

It’s easy to get caught up in the comparison bubble. You always want what we don’t have. You are incorrectly taught to copy, just as you’re erroneously taught to think in absolutes. Celebrate what makes you unique You should do what makes you unique. You should feel free to steal ideas from other people and […]

A still inchoate creator

The blank page doesn’t write itself. It stares at you, pleading for you to quit and move on to something else. Those who persist pace themselves into unfamiliar territory. A big bang does no artist any good. What matters is not the end result, but pushing through in a gradual approach. Creators strive for long-term […]

The burn of discontent

Everything starts and ends from the burn of discontent. We all have an inkling for something, a dormant enthusiasm, waiting to erupt so we can pour our hearts into it. But the wait is killer. Toiling in anonymity while practicing in mediocrity needs a special kind of patience. The resistance can only win at our […]

Mind over matter, what’s the matter with your mind?

Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Sí, se puede You can do it, contrary to your negative internal dialogue. Mindset is everything. Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. Jokes are personal.

The emotional journey of creating anything great

Why is it that every new idea begins with excitement but ends in the ‘dark swamp of despair?’ Writes Angela Duckworth in her book Grit:  “Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.” The key to achieving anything is not necessarily maintaining that excitement but pushing through all the CRAP (criticism, rejection, assholes, and pressure) and maintaining a beginner’s […]

Goal setting 2018 where all believing is betting

Offbeat, except in normal life. Shaken, not in rage to be stirred. A contrarian, narrowed into a consensus view. Constant surprises, a search for settlement. Ludicrous ambition, tolerable mediocrity. Finally a new year, with more conviction this time. Writes Gary Lachlan in [easyazon_link identifier=”1782500022″ locale=”US” tag=”wells01-20″]The Caretakers of the Cosmos[/easyazon_link]: “Without goals, without some purposeful […]