No one wants to take the first piece of dessert because of the chance it’s been touched. People prefer the pieces in the back. The same goes for the first milk carton at the grocery. Why grab the first one we can see presumably untouched versions inches behind?
No one wants to sit in the front of the classroom because it increases our chances of getting called on. We prefer to sit in the back, hiding like a needle in a haystack.
No one wants to be the first to dance at a gala. But everyone starts dancing as soon as one couple makes the first move. People feel more comfortable in conforming when they can blend in.
Who wants to be first? No one, typically.
No matter how much we obsess with primacy, most people fear to take that first step. People desire success, but they refuse the extra attention that comes with it.
But being first can become normal quickly. The jitters fade after we decide to dive in. We halt the mind's exaggeration and imaginary fears.
So that piece of cake is just as fresh. Buying the first carton of milk makes it taste no different than the rest. Sitting in front of the classroom is as equitable as the back. And taking that first dance becomes a pleasant rhythm everyone else wants to mimic.
No one actually cares about standing out as much as we think!
There’s no harm in being the first to make the leap. As opportunity dries up, hesitating to the end can even be more uncomfortable.
The longer we wait, the worse it gets. In some cases, it's better to go first and get it over with than fueling a sense of doubt.