Indecision is still a decision.
Illustration by Tom Gauld
How many of us are just acting our way through life, adapting to different settings like chameleons?
Situational elasticity lends its hand to the collaborative truth, that people inject each other with signaling serum. We try to demonstrate to others ‘this is who I am and this what I do.'
We should follow the route that builds up the most confidence. We just can't expect a return on a relationship should we switch off and reside to impulsiveness.
The edited self is known to slip.
Behavioral economists explain why the mid-life crisis is only temporary. Happiness increases with old age.
“Life satisfaction tends to decline gradually after early adulthood, bottom out in middle age [or 40s], then gradually rebound after.”
In short, life gets better after 50.
The brain is an empty void. It waits to remember until we give things meaning. Otherwise, it clings to the instincts of the amagdyla for its main sensory perception.
Thankfully, our brains are large processors. It knows that survival depends on exchanging information with others. Information is quid pro quo.
But the problem with oral communication is all the selling. Through rhetoric and persuasion, one can rise to have incredible influence. This is, unfortunately, how we got the Kardashians. We make stupid people famous.
Modern life narrows down our perceptions. Praising others, let alone mimicking them, makes us blind to our own self-worth.
The thrill of knowing is internal. It reminds us that we are more interesting than the role society gives us. Nothing means anything if we can't float with nature and find the question.
The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.
— Helen Keller, The Story of My Life
As digital technology colonizes our mind, self-reflection will become ever more important.
But not just any reflection. Reflection in terms of boredom, gratitude, and mental processing.
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No one ever died sitting and doing nothing or staring out into space. These are precious moments where the mind has no choice but to wander, to dance with fear, and to play with ephemeral thoughts. You don't need another splash of smartphone dopamine, you need to relax.
Lifehacker Tim Ferriss writes in his gratitude journal every morning. The simple technique may also do wonders for you, a gentle reminder that life depends on others. Remove the ego
Reflection also comes in the form of deliberate processing. If you want to remember more, you can try two things. One, you can teach something to yourself as you would a child.
A lot of people tend to use complicated vocabulary and jargon to mask when they don’t understand something. The problem is we only fool ourselves because we don’t know that we don’t understand. In addition, using jargon conceals our misunderstanding from those around us.
The other mental processing hack is reducing interference. Give your brain a 10-15 minute rest by sitting in a quiet room and dimmed lights. No phones, no distractions, only effortless brain rest. Reflection comes in many forms, a habit vital to success in today’s fast-paced, screen-obsessed mobile culture.
But we do feel fear and in most cases, we're smart enough to run away or not do anything as a survival tactic. The problem becomes though when fear has us running away from the very things we wish to accomplish.
As they say, do something enough and the fear dissipates. The habit of practicing public speaking reduces presentation anxiety. Shooting hoops every day will make you more confident at the free throw line come game time.
Risk-taking helps develop courage which helps engender competence. We shouldn't ever feel fear, but we should be able to manage its impact.
In doing anything more and more, whether it's through risk-taking, practice, or visualization, we can dull the senses. We can take things on without thinking about them or second-guessing ourselves.
In Japan, adults are wrapping themselves up in a tight blanket like a baby (or a burrito) to help them relax in an always-on world.
The practice helps alleviate muscle stiffness, especially along the spine.
Now that's one way to rest up!