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Are you an egg person or an onion person?

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Introverts are egg people. They’re not hiding anything (per say), they are mostly reserved. And once they start to get comfortable, they are as open and talkative as anybody else. “Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured,” writes Susan Cain in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.

Extroverts, on the other hand, are onion people. They contain so many layers of bombast that it’s hard to know when they are being authentic, showy, or just spewing flotsam. Yet, extroverts are most likely to be leaders because they talk loud and carry a big stick.

George Mason economics professor and Oxford humanities associates Robin Hanson sums up the egg and onion divergence:

I’ve sometimes been tempted to classify people as egg people and onion people. Onion people have layer after layer after layer. You peel it back, and there’s still more layers. You don’t really know what’s underneath. Whereas egg people, there’s a shell, and you get through it, and you see what’s on the inside.

Are ambiverts egg or onion people?

Ambiverts are more like salad people, easy to digest and mix in with all types of other folks and scenarios. They’re adaptable like a chameleon depending on whatever social situation they’re in.

We all contain multitudes. But it is the mouth that separates us apart, with different levels of signaling.

Words are the original memes, for which some things are still best unshared and unsaid. Sometimes silence does all the messy talking, reveals all that needs to be conveyed. As Susan Cain puts it: “We have two ears and one mouth and we should use them proportionally.”

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Creativity Psychology Writing

Write a memoir to make sense of your life

“Why write? To write. To make something.”

Claude Simon

Most people think of writing as a creative outlet. But it’s also an instrument for coping.

According to recent studies, writing your own memoir has various psychological benefits. Whether for private eyes or for public viewing, writing extensively about traumatic events helps you break free from the cage of anxiety.

“Psychologists believe that by converting emotions and images into words, the author starts to organize and structure memories, particularly memories that may be difficult to comprehend and accept.”

Words can save your life

Making sense of the past not only gives you perspective, it also strengthens your personal operating system by refocusing attention on what matters.

Want to better control your inner-narrative? Consider funneling your thoughts from mind to paper by starting your own memoir.


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Psychology Tech

How design dictates behavior

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Left, right, top, and bottom…

Designers make decisions every day that dictate human behavior. The social media notification–in Instagram aesthetics the heart–is what keeps users opening the app more than a dozen times a day.

How many likes did we get on our last post? Any new followers? We crave the variable reward, chasing persistent novelty in the cocoon of candy-colored lights.

Site architecture, like a map, is a mere representation. It’s an illustrated abstraction of territory just as skeuomorphism makes an icon for trash look like a garbage can.

Design is everything. The user interface makes no distinction between a screen and reality–it just wants us to stick around and navigate. The distinction between what we see versus the actual pixels creates a fragmented perspective, with a deliberate me and a hooked me.

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Psychology

Thinking through the repetition

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Doing the dishes, sweeping the leaves, shooting free throws, organizing your records—repetitive tasks can also be mindful experiences.

There’s something about the fluidity of motion that jogs the brain into a presence on par with meditation.

You’d think that boredom would set in and condemn our brains to seek dopamine-hitting pleasures. But some of the most everyday activities, even driving the car, can be therapeutic.

Thinking without thinking is a liberating experience. Unlike the robot, the brain never rests; rather, it is collecting itself in moments of pause to seek understanding and clarity of purpose.

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Productivity & Work Psychology

Evaluating self-growth

Resolving a problem creates new challenges, not in the immediate front but in the long-term as we learn new things and the issues become more transparent. 

This is why most people prefer to live in the comfort of the status quo. Why change a lifestyle that throws us off the pedestal of satisfaction?

Life is a mindset of either chasing growth or mediocrity, a liking for variables or a fancy for sameness. The former is not a proposition for manic action, which can also lead to burnout. Similarly, the latter’s obsession with habits is not a guarantor of doing nothing.

“Everyone is a work in progress,” said Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck in an interview with the Financial Times. Dweck is the author of the seminal self-help book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success where she delineates the two mindsets: Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset.

via Financial Times

One can still embrace the power of activity without the backlash of restlessness. To do nothing but reflect in meditation or on the move in a walk in the park opens the floodgates to keen observation and the next revelation.


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Books Productivity & Work Psychology

What introverts do at parties

What introverts do at parties, from the book No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work

If you read Susan Cain’s Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, you’d realize introversion is not a disease nor does it make poor leaders. The opposite is true.

Introverts are often more sociable in intimate settings although they like to “recharge at parties,” with a preference on listening, thinking, and acting dutifully as well rather than squander people’s time with bombast.

We perceive talkers as smarter than quiet types—even though grade-point averages and SAT and intelligence test scores reveal this perception to be inaccurate.

Susain Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

There’s even no use in separating the introvert versus the extrovert. Most people are ambiverts anyway, toggling between reservation and vocal expression the same way people vacillate between left and right brain hemispheres. The dual characteristics make us whole.

What introverts do at parties

PS. If you’re looking to break free of all the sidedness of what type of behavior is right or wrong, learn how to embrace your emotions at work. This book may show you how.